We did it!
He's 21 years old!
It hasn't been easy over the last 3 years, and 18 til now feels as if it has been the hardest and most challenging part of this adoptive parenting lark, and not always because of his experiences and trauma.
We have to live apart because of the family dynamics, not easy for either of us but better for our relationship.
There has been involvement with many professionals who breeze in thinking they know the answer and will change our world, they don't!
There have been times when his trauma means he ignored me or overwhelmed me with his behaviours, hard as his mum to manage.
We are still a family though and I am still his mum.