So after all the worries about unwanted (and it was) contact and being NEET but enrolling at college things are looking up. It's not easy and he still needs an awful lot of scaffolding and support but half term is giving me the chance to do that.
It's tricky getting that balance and hard to be pulled both ways and worry I'm not doing anything right but I've come to realise I need to parent him, 18 or not!
He is letting me!!! He's allowing me to support, he's coming for help (and food) and is slowly building more resilience.
Let's hope it continues. We both need that x